Saturday, May 7, 2011
My Stages of Grief Now Entering Phase Seven
They say that there are seven stages that a person goes through, when faced with devastating news, and the last election results couldn't be more devastating.
A healthy democracy has been diagnosed with a cancer, and despite glaring symptoms over the past five years, it is a cancer that has been left untreated.
1. SHOCK & DENIAL- You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief.
This of course took place on election night when I learned that not only would Stephen Harper remain as prime minister, but that he now had a majority. A diagnosis that could be terminal for our country.
2. PAIN & GUILT- As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain.
This took place the day after when I realized the implications of what a Conservative majority would mean to our country. Everything we fought so hard for the past four decades or so, will be surgically removed.
3. ANGER & BARGAINING- Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else.
This I did, blaming the electoral system, the media, the pollsters and Jack Layton, and though all of the above were a factor, it is much more complicated than that.
4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS- Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving. During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you.
I think that one will be with me for some time.
5. THE UPWARD TURN- As you start to adjust to life it becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.
I've settled into the fact that Harper will be with us for at least four more years. Nothing I can do at this stage to change that.
6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH- As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems.
I experienced two revelations recently. One expressed by Paul Wells and James Laxer, that Stephen Harper and Jack Layton have been working together for several years to destroy the Liberals.
Sadly a lot of good people were caught in the crossfire, and MPs like Mark Holland, Glen Pearson and Gerard Kennedy, to name a few, will be a huge loss to the progressive movement.
And the second that this election was won by character assassination and dirty tricks.
7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE- During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation... You will start to look forward and actually plan things for the future.
A Progressive Canada will not die. We may take a sharp turn to the right, but I don't think it will change who we are, only the way we will be perceived by the rest of the world. But let's face it, that is already happening.
So I've swung into action. I've set up two new blog pages, to isolate the things I will be investigating. One, the fraudulent election. The other, Jack Layton's complicity in the success of Stephen Harper.
I'm sure he didn't expect it to end this way, but as my mother often said "you made your bed, now you must lie in it."
When I first posted my piece 'Will the Real Jack Layton Please Stand Up', I received numerous emails from people, most former NDPers, who said that they never liked the direction the party was headed under Layton. He put personal success and party fortunes, ahead of NDP values.
I have no desire to destroy the party, but if it's true, then we need to have all the facts before the next election. And I have four years to research and expose.
I believe that Canada needs a good party in the center, to ward off the excesses of the right and the left. And we need a strong right and left wing, to keep the centre focused on the needs of all Canadians.
The PC Party was destroyed, and we can't allow the same fate to kill off the Liberals. They have four years to regroup while the Conservatives and NDP will be in the spotlight, as we watch our social welfare system deconstruct.
Jack Layton will no longer be able to hide behind the Liberals, blaming them for Harper's actions. He will now be the one taking the heat.